My wife just looooved to tell stories about my memory problems in those early days after the accident. Once I got discharged from rehab and sent home it wasn’t so funny anymore. because she was going to have to go back to work, including a business trip to Chicago she could not postpone. One of her primary concerns was my memory, or rather lack thereof. I was not getting anywhere in the short term memory department. She was writing things down for me on index cards and leaving them all over the place. Names and phone numbers and other information. I was finding notes like the one on the fridge pasted up throughout the house on doors, mirrors, above the kitchen sink and probably some other places I haven’t found yet.
The most important to her I guess was the note reminding me to close the door to the basement so Keegan wouldn’t go down there. It didn’t matter that I’d already trained him out of doing that years before. The note to close the basement door started out nice but I just wouldn’t remember to do it no matter where the note was placed. She was nice about it even though she would have been totally within her rights to have it say “Close the f$#@&* basement door!”
All jokes aside, I’m sure you don’t need me to tell you that making some adjustment going forward is important. I could say “Don’t be embarrassed about your memory issues.” but I’d be a hypocrite since I’m still bothered by it going on 6 months out. I can only urge you and your helpers to figure out what you need and what things work best for you.
One of my ongoing problems is keeping my schedule and appointments straight. I also have some cognitive difficulties with this process but the first big hurdle here was just trying to remember anything at all about the zillions of appointments I now had. Okay, so I’ll make use of my phone to do all that. I can use the calendar app and set alarms, even text myself… Yeah, right. My very nice and kind and tolerant speech/language pathologist wisely counseled me to begin using an appointment book of some sort but I kept insisting I could do it with my phone. “I could learn. I could. No, really. I am sure I can do it…”
I finally gave up and conceded defeat in that second week of July. This (with names blurred out) is what my life looks like now. It’s been that way for 4 months now. It was even mostly effective, except for some of my cognitive problems that mess up writing in the appointments correctly. I’ve since moved on to another book that has even more room for appointments. I’m getting a little better at it.
That is if I can remember where I put it down…
Another key thing my SLP practically ordered me to do was to designate a place at home to be where I kept the important things like my wallet and that book. “Just make it a habit. Do it every time. Keep reinforcing it. Do whatever you can.” I’m getting there but I still need to work on that. Now that I can drive I also have to keep my keys there but I still keep leaving them in the front door lock or in some coat pocket.
Depending on how you look at it and if you’re not waiting on me for something it can be pretty entertaining around here.